'Cut the umbilical cord already': Fed up fiancée calls off wedding after overbearing mother-in-law makes excuses to postpone on 4 different occasions

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Apr 26, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Something that not everybody considers when getting into a relationship is that if it becomes serious, your dynamic with your in-laws can be almost as important as that with your partner. Whether wayward or overbearing, the parents of your beloved can have an outsized influence on how happy you are in your life together. 

If you're lucky, this impact will mostly be a positive one—but not everybody gets this privilege. This is something that one longsuffering woman found out the hard way after she felt the need to call off her engagement with her fiancé of several years after his mom kept finding reasons to postpone the wedding. 

She revealed to the internet that her mother-in-law was so overinvolved that she had stopped them from getting married on four separate occasions, and people were horrified at what she had gone through. It was clear that her partner was not interested in making her the main priority.

 

 

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    "You can have your baby boy back"
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    AskAubry @ask_aubry BoyMoms being BoyMoms. Follow
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    AITA for calling off my wedding and telling my fiancé to move back home with mommy? I'm not going to try and swing this in my favor here by leaving out details or sugar coating anything. I was MEAN about it. He was crying. I've been with my fiancé for 7 years and we have been engaged for 3 years. We have gone ahead and tried to do a "save the date" 4 times now and every single time, his mom convinces him to postpone. It's always a "well don't you think you have bigger things to worry about?" Whe
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    Well, in December my husband and I talked and we decided we wanted to get married in August. I told him "don't let your mom dictate it" and he said he wouldn't and that he was tired of listening to her. Fair enough. But last weekend my mother and his mother both came for dinner and I was talking to my mom about what dress I wanted her to wear as the Matron of Honour. My husband's mom asked when we planned to tell her we had decided on a date and my husband said "when we told everyone else". She
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    on my finger and I wouldn't let him. I said I was no longer interested in marrying him and maybe he should move back home with mommy because I know for a fact that that woman will make up another excuse the second we buy a house and I'm really just so turned off at the thought of marrying him at this point because I have zero business being with a man who has no back bone and would put our lives on hold in favor of a woman who still wants to scrub his back in the shower (as I said, I was mean ab
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    The Road Jess Travelled @JessPected Replying to @ask_aubry She wasn't mean enough tbh. Another great lesson to pay attention to potential future in-laws. If they're awful & your partner doesn't set firm boundaries, they'll become worse & your partner their enabler. This is also why I dismiss rejecting someone for no ties to family.
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    Mimi @GentleLlama 17 Apr • Replying to @ask_aubry Her friends think she's wildly overreacting when her boyfriend of 7 years & the father of her child wants to wait another 5 years to maybe get married? Setting future MIL aside how is that not break up worthy on its own?
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    • Destany@BookHalf Unread ⚫ 17 Apr: Replying to @ask_aubry . I feel bad for them both. Her for wasting her time and energy; and him for not being able to get away from his mother.
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    Mary Queen of Sass @_queen_of_sass Replying to @ask_aubry Follow She's dodging a bullet except they have a kid so she'll never totally be rid of him.
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    BRI a. • @KARMASABLEEP 17 Apr Replying to @ask_aubry She's not overreacting. He's a big boy (or should be) and is perfectly capable of telling his mother that he respects her opinion, but the wedding is happening.
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    RuthSentMe @JaneTea4 Replying to @ask_aubry Follow As a woman who married a momma's boy I made it a point to raise my boys much differently and I have great relationships with my DIL's because I Stay Out Of it.
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    ♡ thatglitterhag @thatglitterhag Replying to @ask_aubry Follow Absolutely not overreacting. He was letting his mom who is not in their relationship, stop third wheeling and acting like her say matter so much when it's obvious she herself doesn't have her together.
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    Dr. Blue Check @babydocwhit 17 Apr: . Replying to @ask_aubry This is the only possible way forward for this couple.
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    Rubi @Stregahertz . 17 Apr Replying to @ask_aubry This is insane. Cut the umbilical cord already.
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    Hell1s @Hell1s 17 Apr • Replying to @ask_aubry She did the right thing because it was never going to stop. He needs to learn to say no to his Mom and put his foot down but he lacks the courage to do that so bye
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    BD @briskide 17 Apr • Replying to @ask_aubry I mean that "You won, now you get him back" text to his mom was basically perfection. The period at the end of a sentence.
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    natalie "anxiety spice"... @SeeNadsGo Replying to @ask_aubry Follow "It'll only be a couple of years, 5 at most" ...after 7 years together including a 3-yr engagement, the birth of their daughter, and multiple attempts to set a date all thwarted by his mother, that just means "never".
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    *Midnight @NightshadeRealm Follow This is such a sad situation. I think OP made the best choice for her because who wants to marry someone with no backbone and who isn't willing to prioritize her or their family? If she married him, she'd still have to put up with his mom.
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    LEXIE@Atanvarne. 5d This is gross. That mum has destroyed her sons life because she's unable to accept that he has his own family
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    Melosyna @melosyna 17 Apr When women don't react with anger any longer, but just calmly say "I'm done", it's SO over for men. Anger means you still have hope for them to change. Calmness means you have accepted the fact that nothing is ever going to change.
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    • Brittany @UFullOfBritt 17 Apr It's hard to feel sorry for ppl like this.
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